“Find yourself in the service of others.” Mohandas Gandhi
Hi Awesome Peeps,
Here is a topic I have been dwelling on for some time – Helping Others.
We all love to help by giving to charity or a donation here and there – which is fantastic mind you. But I have been pondering whether there is more to helping than I thought that there was.
We have all heard the term of ‘giving to a good course – but what is classed as a good course. Or better yet what is classed as a bad one?
Many of the great people of our time have talked about giving of ourselves. Napoleon Hill in his book Think and Grow Rick states ‘It is literally true that you can succeed best and quickest by helping others to succeed.’ Maya Angelou, American poet and civil rights activist said ‘No one has ever become poor from giving.’ And Winston Churchill once stated that ‘We make a living by what we get, but we make a LIFE by what we give.’ So there has to be something to this. But there were some glitches here.
My notion and I believe the notion of most charitable advertising, is to give to those in need – the homeless, the hungry, the poor. This is what giving was about to me. Then as I was doing these things, a thought come to me – what if I was asked to give to someone who was say, a millionaire? Is it still giving if, in my eyes at least they are not in need? Would I withhold my gift if I thought they could help themselves?
And the answer sadly was Yes. I saw people who had money or the appearance of money as capable of helping themselves and so didn’t need or deserve my help. And how could I help someone like that, they have more than me – at least that was my mental argument.
But giving is so much more than just helping those in need. Giving is also not judging, not placing myself above others, as though I could tell who needed help and who didn’t. How do I know if that $5 I gave to that wealthy looking business man as he come of his flight wasn’t just what he needed. Or the help to carry some of the ridiculous bags that this woman was trying to manage after a major shopping spree. How can I tell what that gesture did – I can’t.
Say the man was super stressed about his upcoming business meeting – that small gift of a measly $5 put the biggest smile on his face. The woman may have just gone through a terrible breakup and was taking it out on her credit card – just knowing that there are people out there, willing to offer help, to make them smile or laugh maybe just what they need, right at that moment. Who am I to deny them that!
Laughter and happiness in my eyes is the greatest gift of them all. When people are laughing, they are not thinking about their relationship troubles, their bank account or the state of terror in the world. They are only thinking about that moment. And if that laughter comes from us dressing up in stupid costumes while doing the shopping – so be it. The world needs a tonne more of it.
Understanding giving has help free myself from my own mental bonds, has made me happier and the gift of giving so much more fulfilling and fun.
As Mother Teresa once said ‘It’s not how much we give, but how much love we put into giving.’
Have a fantastically wonderful day